New year, who dis?

​It's the purge of all those toxic people, places, and things that have been unwittingly plaguing your life. Now the new year for me officially starts on my birthday which was a couple of weeks ago, but it's always healthy to do a purge.

What I do when facing this daunting plague is picture the life I want a week, a month, and a year from this moment. Do the top 5 people I associate with it make it to this next phase? What about my top 10? Do my associates even deserve my time and energy? Life is a constant evaluation of what is necessary. Cause the truth is we all know there are people that are vampires for your time even if it is unknowingly on their part. You may need to purge from your job (one of them) or from a place you spend a lot of your time.

My last purge was in November I decided that it was time to cut ties with some distractions that were holding me back. It was in three different areas. I let go of a few relationships, a job, and a group that were all going in the opposite direction of where I wanted to be. I was tired of being in the same place all the time there was nothing and really no one I associated with that was pushing me to do better in my life. I got comfortable with a stable life that was just bobbing above surviving and called it living, but I wasn't. I was still drowning. I was still in the same place while walking forward.

How to Recognize It's NOT for you

• ​It's not helping you grow
• If you can go without and it won't change a thing
• There is no future in it (Reclaiming my time!)
• If it's taking more than you're getting

Ain't nothing to cut that *hums* off. Isn't true. It's hard to let go of what's familiar and try something new. But it is necessary, It's not my goal in this blog to tell ya'll what to do. I just want to share my experiences so that maybe you won't feel so alone in this crazy world. 

And you know what? Once I let go of those things that fit all of those bullet points. I found things that did help me to grow. That without I'd be off track. That my future most certainly includes. The new job, being single, and not going to my old favorite stomping ground are definitely teaching me as much as I'm impacting them.

Purge away and may a healthier lifestyle ever be in your favor. 

So it is Thursday as promised here is the blog.
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“You want to make God laugh, tell him your plans” -Everybody and their momma, aunty too
 
You think you know what your plans are, give it a year then you’ll see. As a twenty something I’m learning that plans can drastically change. I’m seriously praying that this is a young thing and that when I’m in my thirties (which aren’t too far off) I get some serious chill to my life. Since I am 26 now, going on 27 soon… *shudders* I have a few things I’ve figured out to be true.

Plans Change
Even the most calculated, well thought out, all I’s dotted plan could be thrown for a loop without any warning AND that’s okay. Sure, I can fill out a goal list. I can even go as far as blot out trips and events in my calendar, but inevitably things could go awry. If you are like me single, no kids, and no real ties it may be awhile before you have any solid plans. When I’ve been somewhere for a year I pat myself on the back. Now granted this could vary depending on where you are in life. You may have a solid career with a house and all the right fixings, but as a young twenty something I haven’t figured it all yet.

Reality Is You Can’t Do It All, Yet
I know you want to do it all. You’re having your quarter life crisis and want to travel to 30 countries before you’re 30 without a trust fund, with a part-time (possibly full-time job), and no business plan. How sway? When did you even start? When you were 25? I have been queen of wanting to do it all, but no said plan of HOW I was going to do it. I’m not saying you should have every t crossed, but I mean have some idea of what you want out of life. Looking at others will sometimes just cloud your own reality. The people you THINK have it all figured out have learned from their mistakes, but best believe they have some sort of plan. If you wanna travel like that plan to be a travel blogger, to work in home stays, or even get a job abroad. There are options, but regardless there is WORK. We can’t avoid it, yet. One day you’ll have a way where you can live this fantastic life without working just remember ya girl mkay?

You Deserve Applause
No awards are handed out for adulting well. Unfortunate, but extremely true. I want you to know that you deserve some freaking applause. For whatever you’ve managed to do. You paid your bills (at least one) this month. You went to work. You turned down that credit card. You bought gas instead of concert tickets. You took yourself out. You bought a new shirt. You got that game you’ve been wanting. Whatever it is I’m going to take the time to applaud you for it. *stands and claps* Pat yourself on the back. We should learn to celebrate in the little things. You got out of bed this morning. You fed yourself today. You did something. That’s awesome!
 
These are the three truths I’ve learned this past year. What inspired me to write this is me going back through my blog and looking at last year’s vision. A LOT has changed since then. I’m not in the Peace Corps. I haven’t left the country. I got the fellowship though, well one of them. I did have an apartment for a year. I worked on having healthier relationships with those around me. I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished. And for me this year isn’t over yet. I have some pretty serious goals these next three months. (I probably wrote this waaay before it reached your eyes) If I accomplish these short term goals I’m going to write a “I did it! Finally…” post.