Well I just had a test of gratitude. I finished typing this whole post and then it deletes! Nooooo... Story of a blogger. Short and sweet it tis.
Today I awoke to temptations tugging at me from something beyond this time and this place, I stretched my discipline because the day awaited. Typically I lay in bed on holidays and wallow. I let the sorrow envelope me until I am completely consumed by tears, but not this year. This year I sent my holiday greetings and then did some holiday cleaning. I danced and slept. Now we're pouring the wine. So.... I'm #Grateful for God, my family, friends, and this day of just being in the moment. Borrowed from a friend who borrowed from a friend who thought that there should be more energy of gratitude instead of hate.
That's it, go be in the moment! Mucho love loves.
I interrupt the normally scheduled program with celebration for my locs.
It's been a little over a year since the beginning.
Here is to the semi-freeform journey. If you have questions just ask.
My hair regime:
Oil hair and scalp daily to avoid dry hair
(Olive oil, Tree oil, Peppermint oil, and sometimes Argan oil mix with Coconut oil overlay)
Co-Wash every two weeks (Shea moisture conditioner or whatever)
Wash every month (Shea moisture or whatever)
"Rip" locs that grow together usually after a wash
Cleanse with apple cider vinegar wash and baking soda conditioner
And that's it! Sometimes I dye my hair on my own as well. *looks at pictures* My has it grown.
Leaving my stuffy cubicle for a life of artistry was a great decision. It gave me the freedom to explore my options creatively instead of doing the norm. Now I can live, work, and create on my own dime. However, I still work a 9-5 because a full time artist life is hard with no funding.
I came up with the title "Getting fired was the best" a little over a year ago. (Horrible title) But 2015 wasn't a great year. I think at the time I was actually proud of my mistake because it gave me the freedom to explore career options and gain some confidence in ways I hadn't yet. However, this statement was dripping in sarcasm, Getting fired was NOT the best. It was beyond stressful, BUT through that I learned to take those lemons and throw them out the window. (Safely of course).
We have to stop putting ourselves in jobs we hate. I'm not saying don't work, but be smarter about your choices because we do have a choice in all of this. Of course life makes us feel backed into this corner with only one real option out, but look for the gap. The way of escape and decide. Is that path better than this one? If the answer is yes then run for it. If not then stay exactly where you are and be happy with it because YOU CHOSE.
Now here are a few things I've learned career wise so far.
Interviews are just as much for you as your employer
They want to get to know you, to see how your set of skills mesh with their company, and guess what so are you. You want to know if you can see yourself in this place a year from now, five, ten, or more. Is this the right fit for you? Don't be afraid to ask them questions. Prepare a list of a few things you actually want to know. I've been there. With the whole I just want to be hired mentality willing to SETTLE for ANYTHING... Now this will sound good in practice actually doing it will be a whole other practice. This is where you have to be confident about who you are, know what your strengths are so you can sell that to your employer, and know when to walk away. Now I'm over here cringing because to me this is silly. I don't want to SELL myself to the man. To Uncle Sam. Or any big corporations out there. But I also know that in order to gain the experience I need work has to be done.
This leads to my second point...
Do Not Settle
One of the worst things you could do is settle for whatever job comes along that will have you working paycheck to paycheck, but you know you can't stand it. If you can't deal with retail. Do not take the retail job. That seems simple, but when your options are slime you have got to get resourceful. Develop the HUSTLE. Cause baby let me tell you without a hustling spirit your bags will be packed faster than you can say independence and you'll be right back in your momma's house thinking of all the ways ish has definitely hit the fan.
Speaking of hustle...
Get to Know Your Work Ethic
For me this meant learning the hard way I am not an entrepreneur, yet. The business side of life eludes me. My creative eye though, my imaginative spirit, and my drive work extremely hard. Yet I know I can't use skills I haven't developed and business is not something I've spent a lot of time grooming. I've done A LOT for my business so far, but my work ethic tells me that I've got the plan, design, hours spent in rehearsal/studio/journal BUT not a stable business plan, That's cool though cause I have a job I actually like. I've spent years doing things just to make the money. It wasn't until I lost my job, tried to do my own thing, failed to hustle, and found myself back at a desk while working on my stuff after (and during, let's get real) work hours, I do in fact have a nine to nine. As my early twenties fade into the background so does that horrible work ethic. It really takes you to sit with yourself and develop that muscle. I still have a ways to go, but I've got this!
Losing my job ultimately gave me a hard lesson. That though in your early twenties you think you know it all. You don't know anything, You're are still figuring out this adulting thing.
Jump Rope Sis
Fitness. Life. Art. Travel.